Month: January 2011

Interesting…

I read a wonderful blog with a very interesting point of view.  It was beautifully written.  The main topic was about light…it was based on the Martin Luther King quote:

Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.

As I read this blog and the comments that followed, the prevailing theme was interesting.  It seemed that the majority of the people believed that light and love came from somewhere else.  It was something you had to let in.  Something you had to get.

I have a very different point of view…

(That’s not totally unusual.  I find I often have a different point of view than most.)

I perceive that each of us IS light and love.  It’s our innate nature.  It’s who we are at our core.  Only, for whatever reason, we hide that.

We hide it from our famiy.
We hide it from friends.
From co-worker or business associates.
Mostly…

We hide it from ourselves!

We are very cute….and not so much bright, sometimes.

Why on Earth we choose that is beyond me.  And we do.  We hide our light and love.

And then we’re even cuter!

Because we act as if it’s something we have to get from somewhere else.  *rotfl*

It’s us.  We hide it…so well that we don’t even know it’s there.  And then we pretend like we have to get it elsewhere.

That’s funny.

Stop!

Stop denying who you are.  Stop hiding your light and love from everyone, including you.  Stop pretending like you’re going to find it somewhere else.

It’s been right here all along.  Right where you left it.  Just waiting for you to remember it was there.  It’s like it’s saying (in the cutest little kid voice ever), “Hello.  Can you hear me?  I’m right here.  Here I am.  Remember?  You put me right here.”  It’s waving it’s little arm going, “Pick me. Pick me.”

And still we search.

We are so cute!

Much Gratitude,
Sarah

What else is possible?!

Tolerations…Bye-bye

I hadn’t heard of this before and when I started working with my coach and dear friend, Wendy Hart, 3 1/2 years ago, she mentioned tolerations and for whatever reason, it just didn’t sink in.  It skipped right outta my brain like a stone skipping across water.  And this week that stone finally stopped skipping & went in!  How does it get better than that?!

Wendy mentioned tolerations again in a group coaching call and I had the hugest light bulb moment.  I felt like Gru on Despicable Me, “Light. Bulb.”

What are tolerations?

In case you aren’t aware of what this means, I’ll start with filling in that gap.  Merriam-Webster defines tolerations as “the act or practice of tolerating something.”

Coaches and professional organizers say that tolerations are…

those things that bug you, zap your energy and drain your resources.

Sounds fun, huh?

My Toleration

I joke that laundry is my arch nemesis.  And it might be funny…if it weren’t true!  This is me and laundry:

I despise laundry because it’s never done!  I did somewhere in the ball park of 10 loads of laundry..then the kids took showers and got jammies on and the basket was 1/2 full of dirty clothes again!  Just when I think, “YAY!  All the laundry is done.”  I turn around and it’s back.  It’s like the laundry mates and has babies or something!

Now, if I had this guy to help me…

Hunky laundry partner

I might look more like this woman on laundry day.

But since I don’t have eye candy, I look much more like that woman in the first picture.

And soooooooo I procrastinate on doing laundry.  I put it off until my son says, “Mom, I don’t have any underwear.”  Or until my daughter says, “Mom, I wore my last clean pair of jeans yesterday.”  Oops!

THIS is a toleration in my life.  It is something sitting undone that I know requires being done that saps my of my energy.

Last week…

Last week on our coaching call (about business, not laundry), Wendy talked again about tolerations.  She also talked about just taking action…any action.  That even if the action doesn’t seem directly related to business, just taking action will move us in the direction we desire to go.

Soooooooooooo, I got off the phone with her & the others in the group and I unpacked from vacation, did a few loads of laundry, scrubbed the bathroom, and put away some things that were sitting around.  And when I was done, I didn’t even realize how much I’d done.

I think Wendy must have hypnotized me or something.  😉

And then next day it continued.  And today I washed the blinds and cleaned the windows and did more laundry.  I got the love seat donated to The Hope Chest (which was another toleration..sitting in an awkward space with no purpose) and made room for more things to come into my life.

Taking Action Feels GREAT!

Wendy was right about that.  Taking action feels great.  And oddly enough, I got a few “out of the blue” calls about business too.

Sooooooooooooo, once again, my invitation to you is to chip away at those tolerations.  Get them out of the way so that your life can move forward.

Much Gratitude,
Sarah

What else is possible that I haven’t even dreamed of??

The Definition of Insanity…

Albert Einstein said the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.  I’d have to agree with him…that point of view would definitely land me in a straight jacket.  I mean, doing the same thing all the time and then wondering why nothing is changing…crazy making!

OK.  So, I stumbled across a highly funny and very irreverent blog.  And I adore it.  She writes great stories, complete with illustrations.  Very talented in my point of view.

Here it is!

How often do we do this?!  How much of the time do we choose something with a sense of blind faith that this time it will all work out?  How often are we surprised that it turned out the same?  How often do we judge ourselves RELENTLESSLY for choosing it again?!

Would you like to have a new possibility?

No, nevermind.  You wouldn’t desire to change that.  Alright then…

Insanity

Choosing something in blind faith that it will work out differently rarely works out differently.  When we choose in blind faith…whether that’s a partner with behaviors we don’t like and we blindly trust they’ll change or choosing to re-friend someone who has hurt us over and over because they promise this time will be different or if it’s as simple as Allie’s example of dancing or jumping…we are NOT, I repeat NOT choosing from a place of awareness and knowing.  We are closing off awareness, we are ignoring our gut.

Sooooooooo, why, oh why, would we even thiiiink it would turn out differently?

We are so freakin’ cute!

Would you like to choose awareness over blind faith?

Is that a rewarding choice?  Just choose.  Or not.

Would you like tools to help you trust your awareness?  To learn to listen to your gut?  Ask questions.  Let me know.  Tell me how you’ve ignored awareness.

Much Gratitude,
Sarah

What are the infinite possibilities this could work out even better than I could ever imagine?!

Happiness Quotient…the end

The secret to happiness? Receive everything with ease, joy, gratitude and the exuberant expression of you! Let go of what doesn’t expand your life and embrace everything that does!

I know…easier said than done.  Or is it??  What if it were easy?  Who says it has to be difficult?

I can hear you…

But, Sarah, it’s not easy to just choose happiness!  You don’t understand what my life is like.  You don’t know what happened to me.

Does that reason and justification expand your life and possibilities?  Or contract?

I used to be the queen of reason and justification!  I used to have a million reasons for why I wasn’t happy or couldn’t be happy.  I was in an unfulfilling marriage.  I had friends who were only “friends” because we had children the same age…otherwise we had absolutely NO reason to be in close proximity.  All of my relationships were controlling and I felt as if I was choiceless in the choosing.  I was pretty unhappy and felt powerless to do anything about it.

Marriage – I said til death do us part and dammit, I’m gonna honor my word.  I’m stubborn and I don’t quit.  I can’t possibly choose to leave…that’s not an option.

Friends – If I don’t spend time with these people, I’ll be cooped up in this house all day and night with the kids and I’ll go nuts.  And it’s good for the kids to play and socialize.  I can’t stunt their development!  I’d be a horrible mother.

Controlling relationships – They only do/say those things because they care so much.  (Yes, I was a bit delusional then.)

Unhappy – This is just the way life is.  All this stuff happens to me and makes me unhappy.

Then I grew up…

Not really.  I did, however, become aware of the fact that happiness is a choice and I was not taking responsibility for my choices.

If I desired more happiness, then it was necessary for me to take responsibility for my choices and eliminate those things which do not contribute to my happiness.

And guess what?!?

All those choices that were not contributing to my happiness…I don’t even miss them!  Haven’t missed them for even a minute.

And now, I have loads of happy and joy all the time, because I choose those things which contribute to happiness.

How does it get any better than that!?

Sarah

PS–To find the first 2 posts of this series go here and here!