Exuberant Living

Be Unrealistic

To move beyond the grim reality of your present life, be unrealistic. Immerse yourself in the beauty of the life you desire.

What if what the world needs is more “unrealistic” around?

I am becoming more and more aware of the utter crap that is this reality. I mean, all the limitations that we place on ourselves and on each other. The things that aren’t even real. It’s all garbage.

Would you like to know why you may feel like you walk around with a 1,000 pound stone around your neck? I’m betting it’s because you are weighed down by the lies you’ve been told about what you can and cannot do, what you should and should not be, where you can and cannot go and more.

Lies make you feel heavy. Lies weigh you down like a stone around your neck.

In order to move beyond this heaviness of lies and limitations, you must begin to be unrealistic.

What thing has someone told you is not possible? Go out and make it happen for you. Take one step in the direction of “impossible.” Work on “impossible” a little each day, or each moment.

Be unrealistic!

Set the world ablaze!

Show them what is possible when you move beyond reality.


Adversity or Struggle

Let’s face it.  We have all run into adversity in our lives.  We have come up against obstacles that either called out the fighter in us or called out the runner.  Everyone handles adversity in their own way, at their own pace.

I read a quote recently that, once again, got me thinking.


Adversity is not the same as struggle.

Even grass encounters adversity in the form of concrete or landscape fabric.  And yet, it still grows…without struggle.  (Believe me, my flower beds are proof!  How does it DO that?!!)

Water encounters adversity in the form of rocks or trees or banks.  Yet, it flows…without struggle.

What does this tell us about the nature of our lives?  Struggle is un-natural.  We are not meant to struggle.

Adversity, on the other hand, is part of living and yet, not synonymous with struggle.

How can we move through life, even adversity, without struggle?

It’s really simple.  Let go of making things into a struggle.

Better yet, let go of the belief that life is meant to be a struggle!

What if we all gave up the idea that life = struggle?  I know people like that.  I used to live like that.  If I wasn’t struggling somehow, I wasn’t living.  People create drama and trauma and struggle as if that is a measure of whether or not they are real or valuable or living.  Can we please let that go??!

Not sure how to let go of struggle and embrace adversity in a way that creates a life filled with ease?

Doesn’t seem possible?

Are you willing to at least explore the possibility that it might be?


Feeling Cold

Minnesota is an interesting place to live. I think it takes a certain kind of somebody to live here. I am certainly not that kind of somebody 75% of the time. I cannot stand the cold that is Minnesota winters. I love to talk about how I can’t wait to leave this frozen tundra.

All that being said…

An interesting thing occurred this morning as I was filling the water trough and putting out hay for the horses. I began to sweat. I was sweating quite a lot for me…in January. The interesting part is that I wasn’t wearing 500 layers. I was wearing jeans, a long sleeve shirt and a coat. I had just gotten out of the shower and had my wet hair twisted up in a towel. I wore gloves so I wouldn’t get my hands wet.

Then I began to think…

Maybe it’s warmer out than I thought it was supposed to be.

Upon returning to the house to dry my hair while the tank filled, I checked the weather app. 9⁰ out. That’s right, folks, NINE DEGREES!

Why the heck am I sweating in 9⁰ when just last week I was wearing full snow gear in 20⁰ weather?

Bodies can be strange.

At the start of fall, 40⁰ feels frigid. But by spring, that same temperature means I no longer wear a coat outside.

Today, in 9° weather, I didn’t feel cold. How awesome is that?

What if feeling is all relative? What if feeling changes with each passing day?

Oh, wait! It does.

Feelings aren’t permanent.

So, if you feel like crap today….

What else is possible that I never even imagined?
How can the day show up better than I ever thought?
How does it get better than this?

And if today, you feel fabulous…

What else is possible that I never even imagined?
How can the day show up better than I ever thought?
How does it get better than this?

Because it can always get better than we think it can!!

Much Graitude,


Tools for Riches

Last time, I talked about riches and what I learned sitting in church one Sunday morning.  And then I promised some tools, so here they are.

Tool #1:

Look at what you have.

How often do we spend time focused on what we don’t have?  A new phone is unveiled and suddenly we can’t live without some new technology that we didn’t even know existed when we rolled out of bed this morning.  We see the neighbors pull in their driveway in a new vehicle and suddenly the vehicle we drive needs replacing.

What if instead we focus on what we do have?  What if we stop looking at what we don’t have?

Tool #2:

Eliminate “need” and “want” from your vocabulary…it focuses on the fact that you are lacking those items … Do you really desire to focus on your lacks?

What would happen…what might show up…if  you look at what you have and what you like and ask for that to expand?

Tool #3:

Gratitude.  Gratitude.  Gratitude.

How often do you have gratitude for all that you have?

Tool #4:

I am completely aware of how cliche this sounds…Are you aware that richness is far more than the money in your bank account?  That it’s more than the cash in your wallet?

Would you be willing to see the richness around you?

Tool #5:

Destroy and uncreate anything that gets in the way of your awareness of the riches all around you.

Destroy and uncreate any limiting beliefs you have around riches, what riches are, what it means to be rich and anything else in there that hasn’t been specifically named.

Much Gratitude!!


Sometimes I wonder if it’s of value to share what I see or hear or experience.  I know there are some who benefit from what is shared here or what comes from others.  In the end, it’s worth it if even one person gains new insight or awareness.

I was in church on Sunday and the talk for the day was on money regrets in a series entitled “Shoulda Woulda Coulda.”

He asked some questions and for a show of hands, so I would like to pose these questions to those here…

Are you rich?
Do you have a car?
You are rich.
Do you have seasonal wardrobes..clothes you wear in fall, clothes for summer, shoes to match your handbags?
You are rich.
Do you keep change in the ash tray of your car?
You are RICH!  Only a rich person would keep money in a trash can!!!

He has  a point, you know.   How often do we focus on all that we lack?

Global Rich List

He pointed us to a website where you can enter your annual salary & it will tell you how rich you are compared to the rest of the world.

Did you know that if you make $36K a year, you are in the top 4.33% richest people in the world?  4.33%!!!  The US Department of Health & Human Services shows that a single individual making $10,889/year is below poverty level, yet compared to the world, it puts that individual in the top 13.12%.  Isn’t that phenomenal?!

So why do we feel so not-rich?

We are absolutely genius at focusing on what we do not have!  We are fed a constant stream of the latest-and-greatest and reminded of how what we bought a week ago is no longer “the best.”

Would you be willing to let go of the idea that what you have is not enough?  That what you are is not enough?

Would you be willing to be grateful to be in the top 15% or top 5% or whatever?

Would you be willing to acknowledge that you are rich?  That you have everything you require right now in this moment?

What’s Next…

I’d like you to ponder this for a bit.  Let it sink in.  Ask yourself these questions (and more) around this topic and look for new insights.  In the next post, I’ll provide some tools for you.

In Gratitude,


I read a wonderful blog with a very interesting point of view.  It was beautifully written.  The main topic was about light…it was based on the Martin Luther King quote:

Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.

As I read this blog and the comments that followed, the prevailing theme was interesting.  It seemed that the majority of the people believed that light and love came from somewhere else.  It was something you had to let in.  Something you had to get.

I have a very different point of view…

(That’s not totally unusual.  I find I often have a different point of view than most.)

I perceive that each of us IS light and love.  It’s our innate nature.  It’s who we are at our core.  Only, for whatever reason, we hide that.

We hide it from our famiy.
We hide it from friends.
From co-worker or business associates.

We hide it from ourselves!

We are very cute….and not so much bright, sometimes.

Why on Earth we choose that is beyond me.  And we do.  We hide our light and love.

And then we’re even cuter!

Because we act as if it’s something we have to get from somewhere else.  *rotfl*

It’s us.  We hide it…so well that we don’t even know it’s there.  And then we pretend like we have to get it elsewhere.

That’s funny.


Stop denying who you are.  Stop hiding your light and love from everyone, including you.  Stop pretending like you’re going to find it somewhere else.

It’s been right here all along.  Right where you left it.  Just waiting for you to remember it was there.  It’s like it’s saying (in the cutest little kid voice ever), “Hello.  Can you hear me?  I’m right here.  Here I am.  Remember?  You put me right here.”  It’s waving it’s little arm going, “Pick me. Pick me.”

And still we search.

We are so cute!

Much Gratitude,

What else is possible?!


I hadn’t heard of this before and when I started working with my coach and dear friend, Wendy Hart, 3 1/2 years ago, she mentioned tolerations and for whatever reason, it just didn’t sink in.  It skipped right outta my brain like a stone skipping across water.  And this week that stone finally stopped skipping & went in!  How does it get better than that?!

Wendy mentioned tolerations again in a group coaching call and I had the hugest light bulb moment.  I felt like Gru on Despicable Me, “Light. Bulb.”

What are tolerations?

In case you aren’t aware of what this means, I’ll start with filling in that gap.  Merriam-Webster defines tolerations as “the act or practice of tolerating something.”

Coaches and professional organizers say that tolerations are…

those things that bug you, zap your energy and drain your resources.

Sounds fun, huh?

My Toleration

I joke that laundry is my arch nemesis.  And it might be funny…if it weren’t true!  This is me and laundry:

I despise laundry because it’s never done!  I did somewhere in the ball park of 10 loads of laundry..then the kids took showers and got jammies on and the basket was 1/2 full of dirty clothes again!  Just when I think, “YAY!  All the laundry is done.”  I turn around and it’s back.  It’s like the laundry mates and has babies or something!

Now, if I had this guy to help me…

Hunky laundry partner

I might look more like this woman on laundry day.

But since I don’t have eye candy, I look much more like that woman in the first picture.

And soooooooo I procrastinate on doing laundry.  I put it off until my son says, “Mom, I don’t have any underwear.”  Or until my daughter says, “Mom, I wore my last clean pair of jeans yesterday.”  Oops!

THIS is a toleration in my life.  It is something sitting undone that I know requires being done that saps my of my energy.

Last week…

Last week on our coaching call (about business, not laundry), Wendy talked again about tolerations.  She also talked about just taking action…any action.  That even if the action doesn’t seem directly related to business, just taking action will move us in the direction we desire to go.

Soooooooooooo, I got off the phone with her & the others in the group and I unpacked from vacation, did a few loads of laundry, scrubbed the bathroom, and put away some things that were sitting around.  And when I was done, I didn’t even realize how much I’d done.

I think Wendy must have hypnotized me or something.  😉

And then next day it continued.  And today I washed the blinds and cleaned the windows and did more laundry.  I got the love seat donated to The Hope Chest (which was another toleration..sitting in an awkward space with no purpose) and made room for more things to come into my life.

Taking Action Feels GREAT!

Wendy was right about that.  Taking action feels great.  And oddly enough, I got a few “out of the blue” calls about business too.

Sooooooooooooo, once again, my invitation to you is to chip away at those tolerations.  Get them out of the way so that your life can move forward.

Much Gratitude,

What else is possible that I haven’t even dreamed of??

The Definition of Insanity…

Albert Einstein said the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.  I’d have to agree with him…that point of view would definitely land me in a straight jacket.  I mean, doing the same thing all the time and then wondering why nothing is changing…crazy making!

OK.  So, I stumbled across a highly funny and very irreverent blog.  And I adore it.  She writes great stories, complete with illustrations.  Very talented in my point of view.

Here it is!

How often do we do this?!  How much of the time do we choose something with a sense of blind faith that this time it will all work out?  How often are we surprised that it turned out the same?  How often do we judge ourselves RELENTLESSLY for choosing it again?!

Would you like to have a new possibility?

No, nevermind.  You wouldn’t desire to change that.  Alright then…


Choosing something in blind faith that it will work out differently rarely works out differently.  When we choose in blind faith…whether that’s a partner with behaviors we don’t like and we blindly trust they’ll change or choosing to re-friend someone who has hurt us over and over because they promise this time will be different or if it’s as simple as Allie’s example of dancing or jumping…we are NOT, I repeat NOT choosing from a place of awareness and knowing.  We are closing off awareness, we are ignoring our gut.

Sooooooooo, why, oh why, would we even thiiiink it would turn out differently?

We are so freakin’ cute!

Would you like to choose awareness over blind faith?

Is that a rewarding choice?  Just choose.  Or not.

Would you like tools to help you trust your awareness?  To learn to listen to your gut?  Ask questions.  Let me know.  Tell me how you’ve ignored awareness.

Much Gratitude,

What are the infinite possibilities this could work out even better than I could ever imagine?!

Nobody’s Perfect…

Isn’t that an interesting point of view?

I am.

So are you!


All of creation is perfection.  All around us.  Everything that lives and breathes and is…it’s all perfect.

We look at the trees and notice how perfect they are.  The animals.  The birds.  Lakes.  Rivers.  Mountains.  Meadows.  Hurricanes.  Tsunamis.

They are all perfect.

Creation exists under our feet, above our heads, next to us…everywhere.  And it’s all perfect.

Nobody’s Perfect

Seriously?  Really?  Come on!

How can we believe that all of creation is perfect and that we are not?  How can we look at the trees and the valleys and a sunrise and believe that all of that perfection does not include us?

We’re cute…not bright.

Perfection does not exclude us!


Sometimes we choose things that, in hindsight, we would not choose again.  Sometimes we do things we would like to have done differently.

Our choices do not make us imperfect!  They are just choices.  They do not dictate who we are!  It’s just a choice.

My invitation

When you look at yourself, look at the perfection.  Marvel at the wonder of the perfection that is you.  Show gratitude to you and your body for the sheer magnificence they currently are!

What would it take to see you as the perfection you truly are?!

Much Gratitude,

All of Life Comes to Me with Ease, Joy and Glory!