Choice

The Definition of Insanity…

Albert Einstein said the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.  I’d have to agree with him…that point of view would definitely land me in a straight jacket.  I mean, doing the same thing all the time and then wondering why nothing is changing…crazy making!

OK.  So, I stumbled across a highly funny and very irreverent blog.  And I adore it.  She writes great stories, complete with illustrations.  Very talented in my point of view.

Here it is!

How often do we do this?!  How much of the time do we choose something with a sense of blind faith that this time it will all work out?  How often are we surprised that it turned out the same?  How often do we judge ourselves RELENTLESSLY for choosing it again?!

Would you like to have a new possibility?

No, nevermind.  You wouldn’t desire to change that.  Alright then…

Insanity

Choosing something in blind faith that it will work out differently rarely works out differently.  When we choose in blind faith…whether that’s a partner with behaviors we don’t like and we blindly trust they’ll change or choosing to re-friend someone who has hurt us over and over because they promise this time will be different or if it’s as simple as Allie’s example of dancing or jumping…we are NOT, I repeat NOT choosing from a place of awareness and knowing.  We are closing off awareness, we are ignoring our gut.

Sooooooooo, why, oh why, would we even thiiiink it would turn out differently?

We are so freakin’ cute!

Would you like to choose awareness over blind faith?

Is that a rewarding choice?  Just choose.  Or not.

Would you like tools to help you trust your awareness?  To learn to listen to your gut?  Ask questions.  Let me know.  Tell me how you’ve ignored awareness.

Much Gratitude,
Sarah

What are the infinite possibilities this could work out even better than I could ever imagine?!

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Happiness Quotient…the end

The secret to happiness? Receive everything with ease, joy, gratitude and the exuberant expression of you! Let go of what doesn’t expand your life and embrace everything that does!

I know…easier said than done.  Or is it??  What if it were easy?  Who says it has to be difficult?

I can hear you…

But, Sarah, it’s not easy to just choose happiness!  You don’t understand what my life is like.  You don’t know what happened to me.

Does that reason and justification expand your life and possibilities?  Or contract?

I used to be the queen of reason and justification!  I used to have a million reasons for why I wasn’t happy or couldn’t be happy.  I was in an unfulfilling marriage.  I had friends who were only “friends” because we had children the same age…otherwise we had absolutely NO reason to be in close proximity.  All of my relationships were controlling and I felt as if I was choiceless in the choosing.  I was pretty unhappy and felt powerless to do anything about it.

Marriage – I said til death do us part and dammit, I’m gonna honor my word.  I’m stubborn and I don’t quit.  I can’t possibly choose to leave…that’s not an option.

Friends – If I don’t spend time with these people, I’ll be cooped up in this house all day and night with the kids and I’ll go nuts.  And it’s good for the kids to play and socialize.  I can’t stunt their development!  I’d be a horrible mother.

Controlling relationships – They only do/say those things because they care so much.  (Yes, I was a bit delusional then.)

Unhappy – This is just the way life is.  All this stuff happens to me and makes me unhappy.

Then I grew up…

Not really.  I did, however, become aware of the fact that happiness is a choice and I was not taking responsibility for my choices.

If I desired more happiness, then it was necessary for me to take responsibility for my choices and eliminate those things which do not contribute to my happiness.

And guess what?!?

All those choices that were not contributing to my happiness…I don’t even miss them!  Haven’t missed them for even a minute.

And now, I have loads of happy and joy all the time, because I choose those things which contribute to happiness.

How does it get any better than that!?

Sarah

PS–To find the first 2 posts of this series go here and here!

Nobody’s Perfect…

Isn’t that an interesting point of view?

I am.

So are you!

Creation

All of creation is perfection.  All around us.  Everything that lives and breathes and is…it’s all perfect.

We look at the trees and notice how perfect they are.  The animals.  The birds.  Lakes.  Rivers.  Mountains.  Meadows.  Hurricanes.  Tsunamis.

They are all perfect.

Creation exists under our feet, above our heads, next to us…everywhere.  And it’s all perfect.

Nobody’s Perfect

Seriously?  Really?  Come on!

How can we believe that all of creation is perfect and that we are not?  How can we look at the trees and the valleys and a sunrise and believe that all of that perfection does not include us?

We’re cute…not bright.

Perfection does not exclude us!

Choice

Sometimes we choose things that, in hindsight, we would not choose again.  Sometimes we do things we would like to have done differently.

Our choices do not make us imperfect!  They are just choices.  They do not dictate who we are!  It’s just a choice.

My invitation

When you look at yourself, look at the perfection.  Marvel at the wonder of the perfection that is you.  Show gratitude to you and your body for the sheer magnificence they currently are!

What would it take to see you as the perfection you truly are?!

Much Gratitude,
Sarah

All of Life Comes to Me with Ease, Joy and Glory!

Trajectory

In life, we are often faced with choices for which direction to move in life.  Many times, we look at situations as “either ___ or ____” and we miss the other many choices available to us.  In any given situation, we have a multitude of choices before us.

Frustrations

Sometimes we make a choice for change.  We would like something different in our life and so we choose something we’ve not chosen before.  Then we step back and look…and when the results of our choice are not immediately evident, when we cannot see the change we chose, we become frustrated.

We assume that because we cannot see the fruits of our labor right away, it didn’t work.

Or that we picked the wrong thing.

Or there’s something wrong with us.

Frustration sets in pretty quickly, doesn’t it?

Trajectories

A trajectory is the path described by an object moving in air or space under the influence of such forces as thrust, wind resistance, and gravity, esp the curved path of a projectile.

This can apply to our lives as well.  Our lives have trajectory.

And whenever we choose something different from what we’ve chosen before, our lives take on a new trajectory.

Look at this diagram as a life’s trajectory, with someone at the center point and the arrow pointing straight up as their current path.  If in this moment, they make a small change in their life’s choices, the impact in 1 year (first circle) is pretty small.  But if you go out 5 years (second circle), you can see that small change is quite substantial at that point.  Now, imagine that same choice 20 years out.  Or 50 years.  WOW!

Also notice what occurs when at the 1 year point, the individual makes another trajectory changing choice.  Notice the difference in their original trajectory and the result of 2 small changes.

Hope

It is my desire that this gives you some hope.  Hope for the trajectory of your future.

Hope that one small choice, one small change, can alter your life.

Hope that just because the results are not immediately noticeable doesn’t mean that the choice was wrong or that something is wrong with you.

You’ve never made a wrong choice because every choice you’ve made for your entire life brought you to where you are and who you are today.

Be grateful for your journey.

Much Gratitude,
Sarah

All of Life Comes to Me with Ease, Joy and Glory!

Earth

There is much talk around today…a lot…about “Save the Planet.”  People talk about recycling and “going green” and reusing.  What if that is not what will save the planet?  What if there is more required?

Destructive Forces

Can we all agree that some of the most destructive forces on Earth are forces such as:

Anger
Hatred
Judgment
Fear
Invalidation
Apathy
Resentment
…etc…

It’s not a complete list, but these are definitely on the list, correct?

What if…

What if these destructive forces, combined with others like them, are far more detrimental and destructive to the Earth than any kind of paper use or making plastic.  What if the vibrations of anger, apathy and resentment damage the Earth more than the annihilation of any rain forest?

Just a thought…

Generative Forces

If there are destructive forces, then there are also generative forces.  Some of those might look like:

Caring
Gratitude
Kindness
Joy
Appreciation
Questions
Ease
…etc…

Again, not a complete list, but you get the idea.

Generate Our Planet

What would it be like if we generated our planet, instead of destroying the planet?  Not only with recycling and such…not that those things are unimportant…but with what we be toward others around us, with our attitudes and actions.

The Key?


Is that the key to saving the planet?  Who knows?  But would it be amazing and magical if it were all that was required?

Are you willing to access kindness and joy and gratitude to save the planet?

What else is possible?

Much Gratitude,
Sarah

All of Life Comes to Me with Ease, Joy and Glory!

Hiding Out

I had an interesting conversation once with a young man.  He explained to me that the reason he chose his career was his fear of “the real world.”

In high school, he became aware that he was almost an adult and so began to work to excel in sports so he could ha

ve a scholarship to buy him time in his avoidance of “the real world.”

Then in college, he worked to avoid the real world by pursuing professional athletics.

As a professional athlete, his primary drive was his fear of having to enter the real w

orld, get a real job….perhaps live a real life (that part is my point of view).

Living Life

We each have a life to live.  We have things that we are here to learn or achieve or complete.  We are here to live.

What’s th

e point otherwise?  Why even be here if we are not living life?!!

Hiding Out

In what ways are you hiding out?

What are you choosing in order to hide out or avoid living life?

We all do it on some level.  We make choices, turn them into “have to’s” so we can use them as excuses for avoiding living.

Personal Confession

I work in a barn about 35 miles from my home.  I adore the place.  The barn owner has been great.  I adore working in barns, being around horses, communing with nature and such.

I’ve told myself that I “have to” work there because I need the money.  (Note:  There is a fear attached here.)

The reality is (when I look past the fear) that the money I get working there probably just covers my gas getting there and back.

What would be generative for me?  Well, maybe having more clients?  A local job?  Stay home & not use the gas?  There are infinite possibilities!

And I use it as an excuse to hide out.  It’s safe.  It’s comfortable.  It’s familiar.  Right?

Why do I do it?  It’s clearly not logical.

Fear

It’s not really real.  And we are great at making it very real.  We make it more real than living!

Fear of being rejected by friends and family.
Fear of passing others up.
Fear of judgment.
Fear of the unknown or uncertainty.

We make it so much more real than what actually is!

STOP

Stop letting fear of living rule your life!  Get out there and make the choices that actually contribute to your life and living!  If the life you are currently living is based on fear of the real world, get out there into the real world!

It’s fun!

It’s generative and rewarding!

The real world ROCKS!

Much Gratitude,
Sarah

All of Life Comes to Me with Ease, Joy and Glory!

The Big, Sticky “It”

What do you find yourself doing when something isn’t working in your life?

It’s interesting how many people function from the same basic point of view when handling a problem or sticky situation.  It’s kind of like the “go-to” solution to any problem we’re faced with.  And yet, it rarely seems to work.  And it definitely doesn’t usually get us to our target.

Fix It

When something isn’t working in our lives, we tend to try and fix it.  We look at what we can do to make it better or make it work better.  We take this thing that isn’t working for us or doesn’t serve us and manipulate it to try to fit our aim in life.

We twist and contort ourselves to try and fix “it” until it approximates what we think it should be.  “It” can be anything from finances to relationships to our job or parenting.  “It” can show up in your life quite literally as anything that isn’t currently working for you.

And as I mentioned, it rarely gets us what we truly desire once it’s “fixed.”  What can even occur is that once we “fix” this “it,” we find that it’s still not quite right for what we require.  So, we set about fixing it again….and again….and again…..

Sound familiar?

A Different Possibility

What if instead of trying to fix “it” all the time, you simply asked something like…

What can I choose here that would give me a completely different result and possibility?

I know…crazy, right?

What if instead of trying to fix what isn’t working, you choose something else altogether?

What choice could I make here that would bring me on target for my life and living?

Will the answer show up immediately?  Maybe.  Maybe not.

And if you continue to ask these questions, you will over time begin to shift so that your choices will more closely approximate the life and living you truly desire to have.  Your daily actions will begin to make the shift.  Your weekly actions will bring you even closer.

Until one day…you wake up and are aware that your life is different and you are actually on target for living life.  And you may even one day have a major thought like, “I could do _____ to change my money flows.”  Then institute that idea and dynamically alter the trajectory of your life.

How cool is that?!

Go For It!

Go ahead!  Think about that thing you’ve been struggling with…that’s had you stumped and stuck…and ask those questions.  See what new and different ideas show up.  See what shifts occur.

Just see what happens!

Infinite gratitude,
Sarah

All of Life Comes to Me with Ease, Joy and Glory!

Impossible…Is That Even Real?

I read a quote on a blog by Joel Runyon.  His blog is all about doing the “impossible.”  It’s a really great read.

Now, back to that quote….

“Never tell a young person that anything cannot be done. God may have been waiting centuries for someone ignorant enough of the impossible to do that very thing.” – G. M. Trevelyan

It’s interesting to ponder this.  How often do we do this?  How often was this done to us?!  How often is this still done to us?!

And the intentions are usually pure.  People are just trying to protect us…they don’t desire for us to experience disappointment or failure (whatever *that* is).  Shouldn’t it be our choice whether we would like to fail miserably?

Would it actually be failure?  What is failure anyway?

Back to the Impossible

What does that mean?  Really.  Does it only mean that no one has done it?  Or that no one has tried?  Does it refer to a lack of knowing if it can happen?

The dictionary defines impossible as “unable to be, exist, happen.”

But what does that mean?

Making “Impossible” Happen

Have you ever noticed that it only takes one person, who is willing to do something, to accomplish that which is impossible?

Prior to 1954, people thought it was impossible to run a mile in under 4 minutes.  Then one man made it happen on May 6, 1954, when he ran a mile in 3:59.4!  Impossible?

At one time, people looked up at the moon and thought that no one could ever get there…it was impossible.  Then on July 20, 1969, Neil Armstrong made it happen when he stepped out of the landing craft and onto the surface of the moon.  Unable to happen?

What have you decided and judged as impossible that if you would destroy and uncreate that decision would open up a whole new world of infinite possibilities to you?

What is possible to you and your life and living if you let go of impossible?

Don’t be shy! Tell me. What can be possible for you?

Much gratitude,
Sarah

All of life comes to us with ease, joy and glory!

Bodies Know

Our bodies never ever lie to us!!!

I know.  This might be a stretch for some.  It’s true.  They do not lie.

My Dinner Last Night

I was driving home and passed this little restaurant and thought, “Oooh, they have good chocolate cake!”  So, I turned around and went in.  Once inside, I sat pouring over the menu trying to choose what to have for dinner (because I couldn’t just go straight to dessert right? That would be totally unheard of.) and not finding anything on the menu that sounded good.  I ordered Spaghetti Ala Leonardo.  My salad arrived and I ate the good stuff…the tomatoes, cucumbers, etc…and left the majority of the lettuce.  Then dinner came.

I ate about three bites and sat there saying to myself in my head, “Self.  Why did you order this?  We wanted chocolate cake.  Not spaghetti ala leonardo!  Cho-co-late cake.”

I asked her to box up the spaghetti…I’m not sure why.  And I left.  I felt somewhat sick after eating the spaghetti that clearly, my body did not desire to eat!

Have you ever done this?

It happens not only with food, but with clothes and activities.  Our bodies communicate something to us and then we second guess and think, “No.  That couldn’t possibly be correct.”

With food it can show up as I described above…complete dissatisfaction with what you are consuming.  One of those days where you sit and think, “I should’ve just ordered the steak I actually wanted instead of this salad.”

With clothes it might show up as feeling uncomfortable until you put on that top that you had initially thought about, but then “decided” wasn’t appropriate or whatever.

With activity it can also be that feeling uncomfortable or even pain.

Bodies are conscious

Our bodies are completely conscious.
And they talk to us all the time.

Why do we ignore them??  They never lie.  Seriously…NEVER.

Bodies don’t lie

I was out with a friend and the first thing I noticed on the menu was the filet mignon.  I’d just had steak, though and thought that I’d rather have the salmon.  But every time I looked at the menu, all I saw was steak.  My body really desired steak…and I actually had an “argument” with my body.  But since I’ve (mostly) learned to listen to my body, I ordered the steak…albeit reluctantly.

IT.  WAS.  HEAVENLY.

See?  Body knew.  Body knew what I was unwilling to know.  So, kudos to you body!!  Thanks!

My Invitation

Tune into your body when choosing something that affects it…like food, clothes, movement, etc.  Ask your body what it would desire to have or do.

Would you be willing to let go of all the cultural mindsets about what you “should do” and just ask your body what it would like?

In Gratitude,
Sarah

We’re All Connected

“What is man without the beasts? If all the beasts were gone, man would die from a great loneliness of spirit. For whatever happens to the beasts, soon happens to man. All things are connected.” ~ Chief Dan George

I’ve explored this idea of connection for some time and have gained many new insights and awarenesses around these connections and what they can mean for us.

All things are connected.

This means that we are all connected.  We are connected to each other, to other living things and to God or the universe or whatever you choose to call that.  We are all connected.

If we are all connected, then the things that we do affect others.  The thoughts, feelings and emotions that we express can influence and affect those around us…and those around those around us…and so on.  Like a ripple on a pond.

Exclusion

I perceive exclusion as a sort of “killing” energy.  It’s not joy.  It’s not ease.  It’s not exuberant living.  It’s kind of the opposite of these things.

If we are all connected, can we really exclude anyone?  We may try, but can we?  What affect does exclusion have?

My Experience

There are often certain people in life that we wish to exclude.  We may not like the way they make us feel.  Maybe it’s the way they treat others that bothers us.  But for whatever reason, we would like to exclude them from our lives.

Seeing how we’re all connected, when we choose exclusion, we not only can exclude that individual, we exclude others as well.  When we cannot receive that individual for the being they are, then we essentially restrict our ability to receive from everyone.

My Invitation

I’d like to invite you to stop doing exclusion.  Allow for more receiving from everyone by eliminating exclusion from your daily activities.  When we are willing to receive from everyone and everything, we are able to receive more.

I’m working on doing this with my ex who I have been excluding a lot.  But if I’m not willing to be in allowance and to receive, then I am cutting off other areas of receiving as well.  So, I am “including” my ex (energetically) so that I can receive more from life as a whole.

**A Note**

This does not mean that you keep someone in your life who treats you like garbage all day and night.  You deserve more!  What I’m talking about here is more at an energetic level…an “unconscious” level.  You don’t have to spend time with that person, you don’t have to go into their universe…just don’t exclude them.  Allow the energy to flow through (not to) you.

Would you be willing to let go of the places where you are functioning from exclusion and allow yourself to receive?

In Gratitude,
Sarah