Exuberant Living

Nobody’s Perfect…

Isn’t that an interesting point of view?

I am.

So are you!


All of creation is perfection.  All around us.  Everything that lives and breathes and is…it’s all perfect.

We look at the trees and notice how perfect they are.  The animals.  The birds.  Lakes.  Rivers.  Mountains.  Meadows.  Hurricanes.  Tsunamis.

They are all perfect.

Creation exists under our feet, above our heads, next to us…everywhere.  And it’s all perfect.

Nobody’s Perfect

Seriously?  Really?  Come on!

How can we believe that all of creation is perfect and that we are not?  How can we look at the trees and the valleys and a sunrise and believe that all of that perfection does not include us?

We’re cute…not bright.

Perfection does not exclude us!


Sometimes we choose things that, in hindsight, we would not choose again.  Sometimes we do things we would like to have done differently.

Our choices do not make us imperfect!  They are just choices.  They do not dictate who we are!  It’s just a choice.

My invitation

When you look at yourself, look at the perfection.  Marvel at the wonder of the perfection that is you.  Show gratitude to you and your body for the sheer magnificence they currently are!

What would it take to see you as the perfection you truly are?!

Much Gratitude,

All of Life Comes to Me with Ease, Joy and Glory!



In life, we are often faced with choices for which direction to move in life.  Many times, we look at situations as “either ___ or ____” and we miss the other many choices available to us.  In any given situation, we have a multitude of choices before us.


Sometimes we make a choice for change.  We would like something different in our life and so we choose something we’ve not chosen before.  Then we step back and look…and when the results of our choice are not immediately evident, when we cannot see the change we chose, we become frustrated.

We assume that because we cannot see the fruits of our labor right away, it didn’t work.

Or that we picked the wrong thing.

Or there’s something wrong with us.

Frustration sets in pretty quickly, doesn’t it?


A trajectory is the path described by an object moving in air or space under the influence of such forces as thrust, wind resistance, and gravity, esp the curved path of a projectile.

This can apply to our lives as well.  Our lives have trajectory.

And whenever we choose something different from what we’ve chosen before, our lives take on a new trajectory.

Look at this diagram as a life’s trajectory, with someone at the center point and the arrow pointing straight up as their current path.  If in this moment, they make a small change in their life’s choices, the impact in 1 year (first circle) is pretty small.  But if you go out 5 years (second circle), you can see that small change is quite substantial at that point.  Now, imagine that same choice 20 years out.  Or 50 years.  WOW!

Also notice what occurs when at the 1 year point, the individual makes another trajectory changing choice.  Notice the difference in their original trajectory and the result of 2 small changes.


It is my desire that this gives you some hope.  Hope for the trajectory of your future.

Hope that one small choice, one small change, can alter your life.

Hope that just because the results are not immediately noticeable doesn’t mean that the choice was wrong or that something is wrong with you.

You’ve never made a wrong choice because every choice you’ve made for your entire life brought you to where you are and who you are today.

Be grateful for your journey.

Much Gratitude,

All of Life Comes to Me with Ease, Joy and Glory!

Hiding Out

I had an interesting conversation once with a young man.  He explained to me that the reason he chose his career was his fear of “the real world.”

In high school, he became aware that he was almost an adult and so began to work to excel in sports so he could ha

ve a scholarship to buy him time in his avoidance of “the real world.”

Then in college, he worked to avoid the real world by pursuing professional athletics.

As a professional athlete, his primary drive was his fear of having to enter the real w

orld, get a real job….perhaps live a real life (that part is my point of view).

Living Life

We each have a life to live.  We have things that we are here to learn or achieve or complete.  We are here to live.

What’s th

e point otherwise?  Why even be here if we are not living life?!!

Hiding Out

In what ways are you hiding out?

What are you choosing in order to hide out or avoid living life?

We all do it on some level.  We make choices, turn them into “have to’s” so we can use them as excuses for avoiding living.

Personal Confession

I work in a barn about 35 miles from my home.  I adore the place.  The barn owner has been great.  I adore working in barns, being around horses, communing with nature and such.

I’ve told myself that I “have to” work there because I need the money.  (Note:  There is a fear attached here.)

The reality is (when I look past the fear) that the money I get working there probably just covers my gas getting there and back.

What would be generative for me?  Well, maybe having more clients?  A local job?  Stay home & not use the gas?  There are infinite possibilities!

And I use it as an excuse to hide out.  It’s safe.  It’s comfortable.  It’s familiar.  Right?

Why do I do it?  It’s clearly not logical.


It’s not really real.  And we are great at making it very real.  We make it more real than living!

Fear of being rejected by friends and family.
Fear of passing others up.
Fear of judgment.
Fear of the unknown or uncertainty.

We make it so much more real than what actually is!


Stop letting fear of living rule your life!  Get out there and make the choices that actually contribute to your life and living!  If the life you are currently living is based on fear of the real world, get out there into the real world!

It’s fun!

It’s generative and rewarding!

The real world ROCKS!

Much Gratitude,

All of Life Comes to Me with Ease, Joy and Glory!

Impossible…Is That Even Real?

I read a quote on a blog by Joel Runyon.  His blog is all about doing the “impossible.”  It’s a really great read.

Now, back to that quote….

“Never tell a young person that anything cannot be done. God may have been waiting centuries for someone ignorant enough of the impossible to do that very thing.” – G. M. Trevelyan

It’s interesting to ponder this.  How often do we do this?  How often was this done to us?!  How often is this still done to us?!

And the intentions are usually pure.  People are just trying to protect us…they don’t desire for us to experience disappointment or failure (whatever *that* is).  Shouldn’t it be our choice whether we would like to fail miserably?

Would it actually be failure?  What is failure anyway?

Back to the Impossible

What does that mean?  Really.  Does it only mean that no one has done it?  Or that no one has tried?  Does it refer to a lack of knowing if it can happen?

The dictionary defines impossible as “unable to be, exist, happen.”

But what does that mean?

Making “Impossible” Happen

Have you ever noticed that it only takes one person, who is willing to do something, to accomplish that which is impossible?

Prior to 1954, people thought it was impossible to run a mile in under 4 minutes.  Then one man made it happen on May 6, 1954, when he ran a mile in 3:59.4!  Impossible?

At one time, people looked up at the moon and thought that no one could ever get there…it was impossible.  Then on July 20, 1969, Neil Armstrong made it happen when he stepped out of the landing craft and onto the surface of the moon.  Unable to happen?

What have you decided and judged as impossible that if you would destroy and uncreate that decision would open up a whole new world of infinite possibilities to you?

What is possible to you and your life and living if you let go of impossible?

Don’t be shy! Tell me. What can be possible for you?

Much gratitude,

All of life comes to us with ease, joy and glory!

Happiness Quotient

You’ve all likely heard about the Intelligence Quotient, or IQ.  IQ is a score derived from one of several different standardized tests designed to assess intelligence.  And if you really desire to learn more about IQ, you can go here:  Wikipedia.

And while many people believe that your IQ is very important in life, I’d like to offer a different possibility.

Happiness Quotient

If there were a series of standardized tests to assess happiness, or joy, what would your HQ score be?

Probably not something you’ve ever even thought about, right?

Well, let’s think about it a bit.  What is your “happiness quotient” or what would it be if there were a test?  Would it be high?  Or would it be average?

Be honest.  You’re not answering me here…you’re answering yourself, so please be honest with yourself.

Happiness Can Change

Your HQ might change a bit from day-to-day, depending on how each day goes.  You may have a day of let’s say 100HQ and a day of 45HQ.  Overall, though, there should be a trend.  Overall, you should see a predominant set of numbers, either on the high side or the low side.

Maybe Joy Would Be Better Here

Maybe it would be better to use a Joy Quotient?  Since joy is what we are.  And happiness ebbs and flows with our circumstances.  But joy is pretty constant…true joy.

Either way…

I’d like to invite you to examine your HQ or JQ, whichever you prefer.  Take an honest look at your daily life and determine whether you’re an all-around “happy person” or whether you might desire to do some things to raise your HQ.


We’ll examine how this might be important a little more in-depth.

Much Gratitude,

Communication Flub

I really, very strongly dislike when I say something that makes perfect sense to me but lands on the recipient and leaves them in complete confusion.  This happens quite often with me because I hold some strange points of view that when examined closely can often just be a case of semantics, but when it offends or upsets the other person, I feel badly for that as it was not my intention.

In the interest of being my true self, I will share an incident.  The tanning salon I use is owned by a man and on occasion a friend of his stops by during my session.  They are quite a lot of fun, the two of them.  Yesterday, the friend said that he was a nice guy and I replied, “You’re too fun to be nice.”  (Open mouth, insert foot.)  What I couldn’t get straight until AFTER I’d arrived home was how to explain to him my version of “nice.”


When I hear nice, I tend to think of a superficial and shallow state.  Nice doesn’t feel real.  It’s what happens when under observation or with an agenda.  Nice is something people “do.”

Where I got stuck…

I got stuck trying to explain this to him. TOTAL, complete and utter stuck.  My brain was locked up…it was in jail!


The other half of what I couldn’t communicate to either of these wonderful men was that I perceive them as KIND. Kind is deep.  Kind is abiding.  They are both kind, caring and genuine individuals and that is why they are such fun!  Kind is a “being” not a “doing.”  And if these two amazing individuals know nothing else, they know how to “be.”

In my point of view, kind carries a completely different vibration than “nice.”  Maybe it’s overused?  Maybe it’s thrown around too haphazardly?  I don’t know what it is.

Here’s an example:  Someone buys a gift for you.  They clearly put thought into it, getting you something that fits your personality and style.  You tell them:

A — Thanks.  This is nice.


B — It was so kind and caring of you to get me this gift.  I can tell you put a lot of thought into it.  I am very grateful that you thought of me.

Can you FEEL the difference in those two “Thank you’s”…one just feels flat, superficial and shallow, doesn’t it?

I’m blond…

I’ll chalk it up to a “blond moment” and one of the primary reasons that my motto is:  “Cute, not bright.”

I sat there completely locked up, with my brain in jail, while these two wonderful men tried to reason that they were “nice guys.”

I felt horrible!!

I couldn’t make a sentence even form.

My Apology

Today, when I stop in for tanning, I will be able to communicate this to the owner (and maybe his friend, if he happens to be there) and hopefully shed some light.  And I will apologize.  I will apologize that my brain went to jail and I couldn’t form a sentence to communicate to him the kind and caring individual that I perceive him to be.

Much Gratitude,


Bodies Know

Our bodies never ever lie to us!!!

I know.  This might be a stretch for some.  It’s true.  They do not lie.

My Dinner Last Night

I was driving home and passed this little restaurant and thought, “Oooh, they have good chocolate cake!”  So, I turned around and went in.  Once inside, I sat pouring over the menu trying to choose what to have for dinner (because I couldn’t just go straight to dessert right? That would be totally unheard of.) and not finding anything on the menu that sounded good.  I ordered Spaghetti Ala Leonardo.  My salad arrived and I ate the good stuff…the tomatoes, cucumbers, etc…and left the majority of the lettuce.  Then dinner came.

I ate about three bites and sat there saying to myself in my head, “Self.  Why did you order this?  We wanted chocolate cake.  Not spaghetti ala leonardo!  Cho-co-late cake.”

I asked her to box up the spaghetti…I’m not sure why.  And I left.  I felt somewhat sick after eating the spaghetti that clearly, my body did not desire to eat!

Have you ever done this?

It happens not only with food, but with clothes and activities.  Our bodies communicate something to us and then we second guess and think, “No.  That couldn’t possibly be correct.”

With food it can show up as I described above…complete dissatisfaction with what you are consuming.  One of those days where you sit and think, “I should’ve just ordered the steak I actually wanted instead of this salad.”

With clothes it might show up as feeling uncomfortable until you put on that top that you had initially thought about, but then “decided” wasn’t appropriate or whatever.

With activity it can also be that feeling uncomfortable or even pain.

Bodies are conscious

Our bodies are completely conscious.
And they talk to us all the time.

Why do we ignore them??  They never lie.  Seriously…NEVER.

Bodies don’t lie

I was out with a friend and the first thing I noticed on the menu was the filet mignon.  I’d just had steak, though and thought that I’d rather have the salmon.  But every time I looked at the menu, all I saw was steak.  My body really desired steak…and I actually had an “argument” with my body.  But since I’ve (mostly) learned to listen to my body, I ordered the steak…albeit reluctantly.


See?  Body knew.  Body knew what I was unwilling to know.  So, kudos to you body!!  Thanks!

My Invitation

Tune into your body when choosing something that affects it…like food, clothes, movement, etc.  Ask your body what it would desire to have or do.

Would you be willing to let go of all the cultural mindsets about what you “should do” and just ask your body what it would like?

In Gratitude,

We’re All Connected

“What is man without the beasts? If all the beasts were gone, man would die from a great loneliness of spirit. For whatever happens to the beasts, soon happens to man. All things are connected.” ~ Chief Dan George

I’ve explored this idea of connection for some time and have gained many new insights and awarenesses around these connections and what they can mean for us.

All things are connected.

This means that we are all connected.  We are connected to each other, to other living things and to God or the universe or whatever you choose to call that.  We are all connected.

If we are all connected, then the things that we do affect others.  The thoughts, feelings and emotions that we express can influence and affect those around us…and those around those around us…and so on.  Like a ripple on a pond.


I perceive exclusion as a sort of “killing” energy.  It’s not joy.  It’s not ease.  It’s not exuberant living.  It’s kind of the opposite of these things.

If we are all connected, can we really exclude anyone?  We may try, but can we?  What affect does exclusion have?

My Experience

There are often certain people in life that we wish to exclude.  We may not like the way they make us feel.  Maybe it’s the way they treat others that bothers us.  But for whatever reason, we would like to exclude them from our lives.

Seeing how we’re all connected, when we choose exclusion, we not only can exclude that individual, we exclude others as well.  When we cannot receive that individual for the being they are, then we essentially restrict our ability to receive from everyone.

My Invitation

I’d like to invite you to stop doing exclusion.  Allow for more receiving from everyone by eliminating exclusion from your daily activities.  When we are willing to receive from everyone and everything, we are able to receive more.

I’m working on doing this with my ex who I have been excluding a lot.  But if I’m not willing to be in allowance and to receive, then I am cutting off other areas of receiving as well.  So, I am “including” my ex (energetically) so that I can receive more from life as a whole.

**A Note**

This does not mean that you keep someone in your life who treats you like garbage all day and night.  You deserve more!  What I’m talking about here is more at an energetic level…an “unconscious” level.  You don’t have to spend time with that person, you don’t have to go into their universe…just don’t exclude them.  Allow the energy to flow through (not to) you.

Would you be willing to let go of the places where you are functioning from exclusion and allow yourself to receive?

In Gratitude,

A Step at a Time

You don’t say I’m gonna build the biggest, bad-est wall out there, you don’t start there…you say, I’m gonna lay this brick as perfectly as a brick can be laid…and you do this every single day…and soon you *have* a wall. ~Will Smith

I love this quote and what it embodies!  It’s so easy to lose sight of the daily work when we only look at the end result.  From there it’s so easy to fall into a way of thinking that we’re not good enough or fast enough or whatever because we only have one row of bricks.

The Wall

Targets are great to have.  Really, it’s wonderful to have an end result on which to focus our attention to keep us aligned with the living we are choosing for ourselves.


So often we lose sight of the progress we’re making because we can only see the result or target.  We can only see this big looming wall in front of us.

The Bricks

We forget that it took 5,000 bricks to make this big looming wall!  We completely take the bricks out of the equation.  We also take out the time and attention it takes to lay the brick so that the wall is stable and will stand.  Aren’t we funny??!

Daily Bricks

If we lay a brick every single day and we lay that brick as straight and level and plumb and all that other construction verbiage, then over time we will have a very small wall.  Then a half wall.  Then a tall-ish wall.  Then, ultimately, we will hit our target of a big looming wall.


We have to lay the bricks FIRST!!!

Without the bricks there is no wall.  Without straight bricks there is no wall…or there won’t be one for long!

My Invitation

Lay your bricks each and every day as straight and perfect as you can.  Go back and tear a few out every once in a while if you find they aren’t quite right.  But lay those perfect bricks so that your target of a big looming wall is not only attainable, but it becomes more and more easy with time.

Each carefully laid brick will ultimately make the next brick even more easy to get just right, just as a brick that is crooked will easily throw your whole wall outta whack.

And with ease carefully laid brick, your beautiful looming wall will begin to emerge.


Then sit back, have a glass of lemonade and relish in the glory of your big looming wall!!

Much Gratitude,

Lessons From A Puggle

I fostered a puggle the shelter named “Muffin” a couple of weeks ago.  What is a puggle, you ask?  It is a Pug-Beagle mix.  She came from a shelter in Iowa, so her true breeding is really a mystery, but Puggle was a good guess at what she might be.

This little ball of fur taught me quite a lot in the short week she was here and I thought it might be fun to share that with you today.


“Muffin” is a ball of energy!  She was definitely not a good fit for a permanent member of our household, but we aren’t looking for a new member so that’s fine.  She would tear around the house at MAC 10, running and running and sometimes, literally, bouncing off the walls.  I was amazed at how energetic she is!

“Muffin” loves to be loved!  She would lick and lick anyone who would give her 10 seconds of their life.  She would relish in belly rubs and other petting.

Whenever “Muffin” went outside, she would run and run some more.  Even though the snow was deeper than she is tall, she would run.  She chased balls.  She chased my two labs.  She raced the neighbor’s dog up and down the fence over and over.

“Muffin” knows how to embody JOY.  She is the definition of exuberant living.  She does not care if I think she is crazy.  She does not care if the kids laugh at her.  She does not mind if the neighbors laugh.  She knows how to BE who she is created to be without worrying about what others might think of it.

What if we could all be “Muffin” for the day?

How much JOY could we experience?
How much LIGHT could we shine on our lives?
How happy might our INNER SELF be that we are choosing exuberance?

Would you be willing to let go of everything in your life that doesn’t allow your inner “Muffin” to emerge?

Much Gratitude,